In the words of great poet Rumi:
"One who is really loved is the single object of her lover, the Alpha and Omega of his desires."
Such love has always been accused of being dominating and insecure. Looking through the eyes of common sense these accusations do sound correct but alas love always defies commonalities. It’s like antidote to the state of being sane as per the societal norms. No one has been able to decipher what Love is and how it functions. It has been, almost always, confused with possessiveness. But there is another side to the story: the not so dark side. A true lover may sound possessive, may come out as dominant and may act immature but IS NEVER INSECURE.
Possessiveness is a necessary evil. It's the virtue that makes love: true love. Possessiveness has a negativity attached to it and it does smell of insecurity. It does contain the fear of doubting. True love never doubts the integrity of partner. True love never tries to suffocate the relationship. True love is like that dog who barks when a thief arrives but is mostly misunderstood as a disturbance in the neighborhood. True love is immature at worst and can be easily shrugged off as being insecure and full of doubts.
In love everything is not always rosy. Love can be hard at times. Love is like that language which at times sounds harsh but it's just the way it works. Love may hurt but it never intends to. Love may sound crazy but in its own sense its not non-sensical. Lovers may say things at times that sound preposterous but are misunderstood: not by the listener but by the sayer. Love can be ridiculed at being audacious but the real problem is it lacks that polishing, that layer of finishing touch which has been designed by the sane people of world to sugarcoat.
Love is raw. Love is non-pragmatic. Love is stupid. Love is pain as it engineers confusion. Love is that frog from the story books which looks ugly but is beautiful from inside. Love is like that kid who doesn't understand the complexity of riding a car but makes stubborn requests for the same. Love may give the feeling of suffocation but it never intends to. Love sets you free but the journey is full of obstacles: most of them because of the stupid nature of love. Love shows you light at the end of tunnel but the path is not hassle-free. Love needs empathy. Love needs patience.
Love is a tough journey. It is tough for both the giver and the receiver. But nothing that is great or nothing that is superior to every other thing can be a cake-walk. Love may hurt sometimes and can cause pain. Love can be suffocating. Love can sound insecure and result in doubts but it never intends to break a heart. It never intends to stoop low. It never wants to leave a bad memory. It just behaves randomly sometimes as it’s stupid. But again the things that are raw and pure are rarely beautiful from outside. The thing that matters is what lies inside. If one feels that one is being loved then one should trust the sanctity and one should just let go the momentarily ripples created by stupid nature of love. To be loved can come with numerous downsides but it worth all the negativity as
“You never fall in love you always rise.”
