i think the hardest thing in this world is to forgive..to forgive those who have given us many nights of torchorous replays in mind, sometimes even after years, or after many apologies made, we don't forgive...
why?
because we think they don't deserve to feel the burden off their shoulder of hurting someone but in real we are making ourselves burdened to hold all those anger, negative thoughts, emotions and negative energies.
unless we forget, the incident comes up again and again in our mind and we feel even more hurt than that day and as we forgive we forget that soon..so the second option is better.
the thing we need to understand is that in most cases no one hurts us intentionally...it may be just the case that the other person is not strong enough to not be selfish in dealing with his/her needs and insecurities and you get hurt, as you take things personally. so don't take things personally and then his/her deeds won't affect 'you'.
We find it hard to forgive because we think we are in the more powerful position when we hold back forgiveness.
Actually we are the weak ones, if that’s the kind of power we rely on to give us strength.
it is been said in geeta that
HOW YOU TREAT ME IS YOUR KARMA, HOW I REACT, IS MINE
