I met this young lady a few years ago.She sang beautifully.Teaming with her guitarist hubby,they made quite a pair.
One day we had a long chat on the phone.I complimented her on her talented singing and added how fortunate she was to get a hubby like him.
She thanked me.And began her story.
Two years back,her marriage was arranged to a guy,an NRI through a common friend.She liked him,the family gave their assent and the union was duly solemnized.
The wedding night,the guy confessed.He had a live-in partner in the U.S.He didn't want to marry her but gave in to his parents' wishes.
My friend was shell-shocked.She was speechless.When she found her words again,she asked him if he loved her.
'No', he replied nonchalantly.
The next day she confided in her brothers who were really wild with him.They could have finished him off.One of her brothers is a famous guy.
Her parents,quite spiritual,restrained them.Divorce proceedings began.Thankfully the marriage wasn't consummated. She got a divorce in a few months time.
Her life shattered,she contemplated suicide.But God had different plans for her.Eventually she met this guitarist guy and they are a very happy couple now.
What about the ex-hubby? Where is he now?Is he still fooling around with other women promising them marriage?
I wonder how many precious girls fall for such rascals who are in it for some time pass.They make tall claims,take advantage of pretty,innocent girls...and when had their fill,dump her and go hunting for another.
I heard about a man who dated fifteen girls at a time.Eventually he married,still is around women without his wife's knowledge.The thing refuses to leave his system.
A man thinks if he's powerful,rich,and a wee bit good looking, he could do just about anything with a girl.Play with her sentiments,take her for a ride and then trash her like a rag doll.
Such men must definitely be taught a lesson.If not in this life,they would certainly have to account for their actions before their Maker.
As for women,they really need to be empowered to make the right decisions.Use discernment.Don't be led by emotions and finally wait as long as you have to,till you meet Mr Right.
He was in love with this girl from same college. They had been in a relationship for almost four years. everybody knew about them. As usual with boys, this relationship was an accomplishment for him at first but as time passed he became amazingly dedicated. They were a model couple in the college and everyone assumed they would be married soon after graduation. Indeed, he confided to me that he had already proposed and she had happily accepted. they already had scored jobs in campus placements so careers was not an issue.
College ended, we went on different paths in our search of our place in this ruthless world. we lost contact for some months. Six months later I heard that the girl was getting married- to another guy.
I was shocked. I immediately contacted my friend. He was a mess. He told me that he had no idea about this till a month back when the girl suddenly told him that they could no longer continue their relationship as she was getting married. She got engaged the next day.
he tried to reason with her. he begged her to give him a chance, as if this whole thing was happening because of his mistake.
"Please don't harass me." She had said. "What we had was beautiful while it lasted. Now we have to move forward. be practical. Don't let this be the last impression I have of you."
"But.. but what about your promise. you said you wanted to marry me!" he said dumb-folded.
"I am sorry." She said calmly. "I realised i shouldn't have said that." Then she wished him luck for his future and left.
She broke my friend's heart that day.
A female friend of mine later told me that the girl was getting married to an NRI 6 years her senior, from a rich family settled in US and himself earning in seven figures. my friend quoted the girl saying that it was a dream come true for her. She soon got married happily and left for her favoured country.
My friend however was devastated. He lost his job. his peace of mind. Pushed his friends and family away. But the guys persisted. We were not ready to loose our friend because of that b****. We were not going to let her win. Finally after a long time and many persistent efforts, we managed to tide him over. He finally started responding to us. Slowly but surely he succeeded in returning back to normal life. But after loosing an year and helplessly dragging his family through that dark period.
When we guys now meet up we often discuss,' Why do Girls do this....'
This is but one example. I can give you a few others too, some with not so happy endings.
But this never made me hold a grudge or take the women for granted and blame them.
So why do you, my dear friend? Why do you?!