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"Have you made any commitments with her?” She asked.
"What kind of commitments?", a confusing reply she received from the guy on the other side of the chat.
They were chatting on fb.
“The duffer doesn’t even know the meanings of commitments and doubts that he is in love!” she thought.
"You know, commitments like to marry her or staying with her forever…" she then explained.
"Yes, I have." He asserted it as if he was realizing that he had committed a serious mistake.
after a while,
“Well Done!!” she taunted!
“What to do now?” She could see the increasing sadness in his talk.
“Listen”, she said, thinking herself how to take him out of that awkward situation he had jumped in!
And now came to her to eat her brains for suggestions!
“You seem sensible to me”, he had said, when he first asked her for help, “and, if I can trust you, then I want to tell the whole story of mine so you may figure out what is problem with me… Can I trust you?” he asked as if half the way he knew he could and partly confused at the same time too.
She could have got rid of that long chat which, she knew, would start soon if she said “yes”.
But, she wanted to help, really, no matter it was above 12 am by then … she wanted that time for herself, but she decided the opposite and replied “yes, you may”
So, here he started telling her story of mistaken love.
His mother told him earlier this summer that there was a proposal for him from Saudi Arabia. It was where all the problem started.
He discussed it with Neha (his close friend). Just then that happened for which he was not ready at that time, neither had expected such a sensational response.
Neha had begun crying and told that it was over between them now! He was shocked that what was over.
As they talked further, it was revealed to him that the girl had fallen in love with him… it was when he used to teach her programming and mathematics. So, he got the picture that that was over which was never even started for him!
Oh man !! … and he thus felt moved by her emotions… so,to pacify her, to make her stop crying, he exclaimed too “I love you too” , and since then they both have alienated their relation from friendship to the couple love…
Though he was feeling good about it, and apparently, as it was happening first time with him, but, deep inside he was unsure of it. He was still confused whether he was in love or not. So, he asked a distant friend (to whom he is conversing right now on fb) of him a frequently asked question, “can a boy and a girl be stayed just as friends forever?” to which she had replied “yes” with a detailed answer. He was still not satisfied, so now he was telling his whole story to her to work it out for him,.
“I don’t like her (Neha) that much,” he was telling her, “there are few things good in her which I like, but I am still confused about it… I cannot take any decision…”
After listening to his story, she (fb friend) got the complete scenario, actualized the case and then asked, “What is the present status of your relation?”
“Means?” He asked, as if he was confused about everything.
“Oh God! He knows nothing!!”She thought before replying him, then elaborated it for him, “I meant, friends or lovers”?
“Lovers,” he said. She could feel the grim tone in his words.
“hmmm…complicated!” she remarked.
Though she was bit irritated but she remained calm during all the chat… because he had come to her for the solution, not to let her tell him that he had been a goof! He already knew that. She really wanted to help. All the annoyance was just because he was elongating the story even when she had got the whole picture and now just wanted to figure out the solution. But, she let him kept telling (remaining patient), she wanted to make him feel relaxed by pouring out all that.
“What to do now?” He asked as if was dying to get rid of that relation… was ready any second to quit it… but looking for the easy way out as he told her later.
“Listen,” she said.
. . .
Pondering upon the situation, she figured out a few noticeable things. Then, she gave him the answer in points:
“First thing is, that You told her that you loved her because you wanted to pacify her! not because you internally, actually were ready to say that!
Secondly, it is first time with you, so you are feeling good, and you must
Thirdly, you can say easily " not so much" like her,
Fourth, you are confused, and
Fifth, you cannot take decision!
That is an attraction ,,, I won't say it love
One is not confused about loved ones “
As soon as he replied “hmmm”, she was confirmed that he was not in love at all!
He wanted to get out of the abeyance of strange amalgam of feelings…
He now wanted to undo all that, to turn the relation back to just friends, instead of passionate lovers.
“I think I just like her as a friend.” He confessed.
“What he is !! “ She thought, but she could feel how he was feeling. She knew that it was not his fault completely to fall in that kind of situation, as she asked him,” sometimes we think that we love them too who love us, just because we feel bad about not paying back their love. do you feel like it???”
“ yes yes that is da reson I dont want to hurt her thatz y I said sooo” he replied as if she had given words to what he felt.
“hmm, I knew it the moment you said, ‘bcz she was crying’.”
“Now, what to do? “ He asked for the third time…
“he would not have been it that messy situation if he had used his brains earlier!” she thought angrily…
“… I want the easy way out…” he was telling her while different notions were running across her mind…
…
Listen to me, she said, and continued with:
“telling straight will hurt her (Neha),
ignoring her will hurt her too,
leaving without any reason will also hurt her”
…
“yes” his reply came with a sad smiley … “So ? “
…
“Don’t cry.
You don’t have to worry about it,
Situation can be turned to normal again.
You don’t need to give any notice for that” She replied as if she were expert at handling such cases!
…
“how that will happen, Love Master? “ He asked laughingly, as if he was finally finding a way out.
“Reduce your messaging with her.” She told him as if it was the key to the solution!
“How that will solve the problem?” He asked, still ill- patient as if expected that the situation was some wound and I was supposed to give him a quick relieving medicine!
“Two things you will be confirmed to you for this:
First, you will get to know within two weeks that whether you really want to get out of that relation or not.
Second, When communication becomes less, such relations are affected… “
“hmmm… okey!!”he replied as if he was understanding all what she was telling.
After a short while…
“Thank you sooooo much!!” She received his reply, as if he was really going to take her suggestions serious, and so he should_ he came to her for this.
“By the way, did it help you some??” she asked. She wanted to know the result of using that much brain on the issue.
“yeah, a lot!” he told her, “thanks dear!”
“My pleasure.” She replied, feeling really pleased. She felt contentment because she knew she had relieved some soul.
…
Here, it was time for the meal, it was 2.30 am by then, it was the month of Ramadan… the month of fasting. So, they bid good bye to each other, thanking each other…
He had come bewildered but was leaving with a clear mind_ she had made him learn how to listen to his heart.
Bring your heart and mind together before taking any final decision, otherwise the fight will start between the two which will become difficult to tackle for you!
