Almost everyone I encounter lack the patience to listen. They are just too busy trying to impose their views upon people expecting them to listen. Why would others listen to you if you yourself don't have that ability?
A conversation is a form of an interactive, spontaneous communication between TWO people. (I actually googled it to check whether my interpretation of the word is proper!) It is not acceptable if just one person keeps on and on babbling and the other person acts as a silent spectator. Talking as well as listening should be mutual.
Why I suddenly thought of writing on this subject is because I was tired of listening. I too wanted to talk. I was "listening" to my friend who was on the phone and it seemed like a millennium since I heard my own voice.
Well also because of the fact that I was touched by some write ups in here. Write ups where some people wrote about how much they prefer and like reading other people's posts than actually posting something. It is highly commendable on their part, for people who listen(in here read) are able to widen the dimensions of their perception. Everybody thinks of a different universe and perceives things differently. But people who listen are able to present their point of view in a very convincing and diverse manner. It is manifold.
The inability to listen is not actually anyone's fault, yet it is everyone's fault. Everybody is in a hurry these days, its a miracle that people actually find time to at least catch some snippets of the conversation. I agree that it is essential to let the world know of your existence, but trust me you won't achieve that just by passing your views on anything and everything all the time. You just need to calm down. Why not try listening? It really is fun to listen. Especially closing our eyes and then listening. Listening to all the beauty nature has to offer or to the stories told by our ageing grandmothers.
Rather than getting embarrassed with the syllables that poured out of our mouth, we can try and listen. Listening helps in planning a perfect response. Let's not jump into conclusions by just hearing parts of what the other person is saying. Instead, let's listen to the end. Listen without interrupting.
It feels amazing when a person listens to you without interrupting. You automatically develop more liking towards that person. Such people are unfortunately, very rare.
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