Written by- SHIVESH BHATIA, Sardar Patel Vidyalaya
blog- http://shivesh-writerspoint.blogspot.in/
Love can happen to anyone and anytime. It's something unpredictable and unplanned.
For Teenagers like us, love is like a hat. We feel warm in it. We know how it looks. But when it gets old, we eventually want to discard it or when we see a better one in the market we yearn for that one. Don't we? Maybe that's because we are NOT ready to settle our minds onto one thing.
At this age, we are like those butterflies who want a sip of nectar from every flower in the garden! I know it's an amusing example, but it’s true!
Teenage is a confusing phase of life, where a lot of things are going on in our heads, but we ourselves are unaware of most of it!
At this age our 'love hormones' are quite much at work, 24*7. Be it the school canteen or the mall, getting attracted is not something unusual. We see our parents knitted in a beautiful relationship with each other, since years. Are we mature enough to understand the find of bond they share?
Are our minds developed enough to find true love? I feel that teen love is trail love. It's the stepping stone for what we may choose in future. But one thing I can be quite sure is that the purpose or motive of teenage love is PURE. It's completely on the bases of attraction and not for money, status or power! If we believe in love at this age then let me make it clear. It’s not love. Its attraction. We can't expect to marry our boyfriend or girlfriend of this age. Breakup is bound to happen and it depends upon us how we take it.
If we are in a relationship, we must be ready to face an end to it.
Depressed statuses of heartbroken people on face book are very common. We all read them. Don't we? Some say, “I feel alone and hollow" while others say “collecting shattered pieces of my broken heart is difficult” and what not !
If you can’t bare the pain of separation (which has to happen sooner or later), then without any doubt you are not ready for a relationship. We have to live with the fact that relationships of this age are not meant to be long term.
Being what we are today, if we look back to the kind of clothes we used to wear earlier, it’s not something we are fans of! Choices and decisions at this age do see-saw! Then how can our partner seem to be an eye candy till the time we decide to marry (which is not going to happen in the next 10 years!) if choices can change in a year, then clinging to your decision for a decade is impossible.
I am not against emotions we all experience. Being fascinated is not a crime. It’s something which is not in our hands. Getting into a relationship is also okay. But we shall be prepared to manage it. It’s important to make sure; we don’t get swayed away by emotions. If our studies are being affected or if we are not able to spare time for us, then we are being deprived of a lot because of this relationship. If we can manage its aftermaths or not is another important factor? If it ends on a bitter note, then surely a tint of immature behavior was involved.
A friend of mine (I won’t take names here) was in a relationship for long, but they met only twice. When it ended, she realized that he cheated her.
And then, from somewhere she developed the desire to slap that guy! The girl who I thought was mature enough to be with someone for this long had suddenly turned into a crazy heartbroken girl! She created a fake account on face book to get in touch with him again. But thankfully she realized that it was a really kiddish thing to do!
Attraction will happen, you will have crushes and maybe relationships
but teenage love is just a learning experience
experience it, live it and love it but don't construct dreams of glass!
My one is the best rest of them are worst
Is it true love or just our thirst
Thirst to be with someone
To be commited and to have fun
Is it love or just an attraction
Is it love or just our satisfaction
How can someone bcom our need
Is it love or just a greed
May its want or our desire
May be it is true or our heart is a liar
Breakups, that's what happens at the last
Promises of staying together are now just the past
Its a small age to be together
Its a small age to promise to be forever
Is it love or just an attraction
Is it love or just our satisfaction
Poem by- Suvidh Jain, Aadharshila Vidyapeeth
Well done!