Love is one such feeling where one doesn't need any calculations. It is pure and it just happens. You don't have to look for an answer or you don't need to solve any query; you don't need to work hard nor you need to put up any rules in it. It is that feeling which, no matter how hard one tries to control, always gets out of the way and just happens.
Well, but the truth is, in today's world, there is lots of calculations in love or relationships. One tries to divert mind and heart to one particular place because that's where 'he' thinks the solution lies. We are living in a world where everything is available just a click away. You are missing someone, just dial their number. You're hungry, just order and the food will be at your door step. Feeling bored, just click and watch your favorite movie online. Want to hangout with friends, just click and plan the trip and move anywhere you want to.
This 'ready' to use and 'easily' availability of products and things have made us all lazy and impatient. We don't want to work towards knowing each other and don't want to spend time before we take an important decision of our life. What we want is every quick and near. I have once attended a meeting where a gentleman was sharing his views on how gays used to meet, causally, during the time with no internet and no cell phones.
He was saying that they used to send a letter to some organization in USA which organizes this meeting. Then, that organization, with the help of local people from the Indian city, will decide a place. Then, after fixing the time and a disguise way of meeting is decided, the organization will send letters to everyone. If one misses out the letter, then they have to wait for the next meeting; which will take another months to come.
These people understood that distance is not important, love is important. Though, these meetings were arranged to make friends, these guys knew that distance doesn't matter, love does. In older times, when people knew that it's hard to find a nice guy, they spent time with people, who ever came along. They never worried out distance and region. They knew, that love is important, distance is just a number that can be handled later on.
Now, when I chat with people, I am amazed. I had come across many gays who despite living in the same city are not ready for even friendship. We may live in different corner of the city, but that doesn't mean I am from another galaxy and will take years of light years to travel to his galaxy. People fear long distance as they don't have trust; which is most important in any relationship. Without no relationship can ever prevail.
These days, people are more logical. They calculate everything before saying 'hi'. They go through your profile, and the first they notice is your city. Are in both in the same city or in different city. If you both are in same city then how far are you? Then they read about your stats. How tall are you? Are you fat, athletic, skinny or just average? If you have your pics over there, then they analyze your thoroughly. After doing this, they will go through your profile and see what all you do and what are you looking for?
In many cases, despite mentioning that I am looking for 'only' relationship, people ask me for sex. This shows that they have just gone through my pic and have asked for it. They don't have time to go through my profile and see the first line which says 'I am looking for relationship'. Whenever I get those messages, I laugh at myself.
OkCupid is a nice site as it shows the compatibility level between you and other person. So, if my compatibility level is around 90% to a guy and I message him, I get 'You're so far' in return. Whereas, I have mentioned that I will be settling abroad by next year. It's funny that how people pay attention to distance over love and emotions.
No one wants to be alone, but if you would keep on saying to all the people who are 'not' from your current city, you are missing out those people who may understand you well. When in love or relationship, you only need someone to understand you and care for you. But, if you would keep on saying 'No', then you are saying 'No' to a lot of possibilities. There is no harm in chatting with a person these days. There are so many options, Skype, Facebook, What's App, and what not? So, just thinking that person is not there in your city so he doesn't deserve to know you more, is not right. Always remember, there is no mathematics in love. There is always love, and just love in love and relationship...
