It's a female's fault that they get raped. We wear sarees and burkhas, we remain sexy no matter whether we are 3 yrs old or 80. It is our fault that we laugh, talk or even walk in front of our fathers, uncles, friends, relatives.
On my sister's wedding day, a family of a husband, wife(she's the cousin) and her son walked in at 2 am. After my sister got ready, I had to take my clothes from the cupboard where the husband was sleeping. I was very decently dressed before the idea pops up :) After the wedding got over, the husband made a big fuss how he couldn't sleep coz I was walking the ramp, swishing my wet hair and was basically being a slut!! Just like that ad with Dia Mirza about some deodarant/perfume(?)!!! WOW!!
Of course!! It is my fault. I was inviting trouble, wasn't I? I get groped & rubbed upon in a crowded bus. It is my fault. I get to hear invitations to get into cars and on one occasion a truck laden with construction material. I get hit with headlamps and horns when I am waiting for my husband to pick me up from work. It is all my fault.
I am alive, I exist..this is my fault. And it's not like I am a beautiful lady. I am fat, have crooked teeth and am dark. But I cannot complain since even ladies in burkhas and small, little girls are being targeted.
It breaks my heart since I have a girl too. How can I protect her? How do I tell her what the world is like? What can I do except teach her to be confident and to make her a good person?
I have a son too. So I teach him to be respectful. He is only 9 but I tell him stories on how to be a good man. A man worth his salt.
To really understand the irony, watch this:
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Or suppose a man drops 500 Rs note on jogging track and somebody (running behind him) picks it up and keeps it, who's responsible for it?
Moral of the story: Precaution does makes a difference. We cannot just be utterly careless while being sure that it is us who will be harmed. To taste the "freedom" at the cost of our security/modesty is foolishness. Said this, obviously, vulgar comment or stealing is indeed bad. :)
A women posting her upper torso on fb knows there is option of commenting and comments will come for sure, another comments may be "some high density lipids deposits" work them out.
The problem is actually the mentality to steal the 500 rs . It can't be attributed to the owner as long as she didn't shove it in someone's mouth.
On the other hand the exposure has effect on male humans and makes them want the object in question. But then there is mind and control process also.
Additionally a three year old doesn't signal the same signs of sexual maturity and yet is raped , so the problem is not with the exposure entirely , else every men must be raping someone.
The problem is with the sick men, a process should be made to filter out possible rapists and should be given counselling and treatment.
They should be told to Drive responsibly or loose the 'bike'.
In murder the person cease to exist and the pain ends, mental turmoil and sense of self goes. But in rape the breathing stays, the pain stays, mental agony stays, and shattered sense of person stays which is even more shattered by those around including the loved ones.
Its horrendous crime considering the amount of time the suffering is to be borne by the victim.
At least the minimum we as male representative of human race can do is to stand for every women around us, practice little fine level control and make a difference. No effort is insignificant if done with right resolve and commitment..
do we do enough for the survivors as a commun ity..i mean there is first the punishment that needs to be meted out to the perpetrators and I guess even the victim could decide upon that maybe. but then, once that is done with, cant we forget the thing in a hurry. if the fellow sitting adjacent to the victim in office forgets the ting quickly and genuinely like a bad dreaam and stops even being pitiful on the victim, she would feel better. i think there is some hypocrisy on our part also to scandalize a matter beyond required. beyond the penalty, its strictly a matter aming the victim and the closest ones to them..rest should summon the maturity to forget it in a hurry..and that would make us a really progressive society..
Bully and charging ..