friendship

I was feeling like writing something today and call it a co-incidence or what that today is friendship day and so I decided on the topic and obviously it is "friendship". i came across a very interesting quote by some Anne Lindberg:

"Men kick friendship around like a football and it doesn't seem to crack. Women treat it like glass and it falls to pieces."

Is it truly so??..by my experience, I can say onething that the approach toward friendship is certainly gender biased. Talking about the negative points, yeah, girls are too sensitive about the friendship thing and sometimes because of this attitude, it happens that a friendship is lost without a reason. And in case of guys, even in tough times, the friendship survives because they approach the essence of friendship in a less non-sense way and they just ignore things and issues without quantifying the seriousness or the resulting impact. But looking at this gender biasing in a more realistic, or say, based on definition of a true friendship, it can be find that a girl respects the rule of friendship in a better way than her male counterpart and she is also more closer to the essence of the auspicious phenomenon called as friendship. A guy's approach toward strong friendship can be reciprocated in best way by these lines of Honore Debalazac:

"Friendships last when each friend thinks he has a slight superiority over the other."

Man believes in being a little jealous about everything and this reflects in the way they feel toward relationships. Whenever one of them suceeds, a little somethings dies in the other one. I don't mean that men can't be good friends but this is something very natural. To be very crude, if women are symbol of sacrifice and giving then men are the ensemble of competitiveness and jealousy. Its something that come from inside and men can't be blamed for this as its the result of that Y chromosome in them. A woman beleives in philosophy that tears and truths clear the way for a long lasting friendship while a man thinks if you judge a person then you have to judge them. This difference in the approach toward friendship results in the difference in pathways travelled by a friendship involving a girl and a friendship not involving girls. A girl-involved friendship get shattered at very early stage as it relies on judging and then deciding while guys generally ends a relationship when they feel like ending it. Many a times, they keep on ignoring the basic rules of friendship and lately, when they realize this, its a clear no without even looking at the situation and without finding the truth. The basic point here is that men start relationship on a very immature note and they end it like that only while in case of women, they take their time and when they are sure about it, they get into it with all their emotions, dedication and truthfulness. this aspect of a girl's approach toward friendship has its own sideeffect. Many of the relations end without getting started as women are time taking and men are impatient. Thomas Jefferson quoted:

"I find friendship to be like wine, raw when new, ripened with age, the true old man's milk and restorative cordial."

This cab be taken as the bottomline for a true and everlasting frienship. The problem that occurs in most of the cases is that a man is impatient enough to wait for the ripening thing and the woman is caitious enough to beleive that the wine is ripened enough to be good. Woman generally messes it up because of their high expectations and "till-I-am-asserted-enough" approach while a man messes it up because of their no-emotional things and "will-see-it-later" approach.

These all thoughts have put a doubt over my mind and has made me belief that "is true friendship like true love is a mirage?". But then I compared myself with that deer who get trapped in this mirage and once he is out of it, trying again is the only solace, he is looking for. Once again a coincidence happened, I was searching for the deer's solace and I came across some beautiful lines quoted by John Boyle O'reilly:

"Too late we learn, a man must hold his friend:Unjudged, accepted, trusted to the end."

So, the thing is that finding a long lasting and true friendship is somewhat like searching for a water source in sahara desert but we need to keep on searching for it as it is the only thing that can save us from dooming and that can be the source of some light when the darkness surrounds us.

Happy friendship day!!

Cheers!!!..:)