During a seminar, a woman asked,"How do I know if I am
with the right person?"
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting
next to her so he said,"It depends. Is that your
partner?"In all seriousness, she answered"How do you
know?"Let me answer this question because the chances
are good that it's weighing on your mind
replied the author.
Here's the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you
fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls,
want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in
love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and
spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything.
That's why it's called"falling"in love.
People in love sometimes say,"I was swept of my
feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just
standing there; doing nothing, and then something
happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience.
But after a few months or years of being together, the
euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY
relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they
come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it
happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of
being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage
vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic
difference between the initial stage when you were in
love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start
asking,"Am I with the right person?"And as you reflect on
the euphoria of the love you once had, you
may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the
right person; it's learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and
look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes
in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn
to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive
substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie
outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone
else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But
you'd be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the
right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous
experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It
takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it
demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can
do (with or without your partner), Just as there are
physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are
also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply
these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a"decision". Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who walks into
your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away,
who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!
::::: PK ♥MâĎĎÝ :::::
