I had been bewildered by this question for more than 5 years, what is love? Every time you asked for an answer I was speechless. We fought over the same question for you said you don't feel that much as I do. I was puzzled myself for what do I feel. And what is love?
Today, just now when I was reading an email I sent you on 14th Feb 2011, I was struck with a thought which suddenly made me think that I have an answer now.
Love is just an expression. An expression for the happiness of the other person. Sometimes for the happiness of oneself only.
Some express through words, some through hugg, some through kiss, some through small deeds of kindness, and some use the permutation and combination of all( not to forget the sex or say love making)
Its said the love is complete if its expressed in all major forms. And when two people are not able to express it then people say "love is gone". Yes we are talking about the valentine's day love.
Once you have found that person to whom you can express it, you have found love. When you thinks they are there for life, they are love of your life.
In a marriage when people stop expressing themselves, how they care and how they feel for each other, then the marriage is love-less.
Some people find it very difficult to express. There may be many reasons for their inability to express. They may like the other person very much but they may be afraid of the "what ifs", their insecurities. What if he don't take it good way, what if she thinks why is he expressing too much? Sometimes these insecurities hinder the expression of love and slowly that feeling dies out. It becomes too odd to express yourself. Only people who have a clear conscience can love, no guilt, no insecurity, no fear. That is why its a proverb that love is not for the weak-hearted.
I don't agree with people who say love cannot be one-sided. When a person like someone and he cannot express it directly he/she express it to themselves, and if it brings them happiness, its one sided love.
Love exists only in the moment of expression just like life. Even life don't go beyond the moment, its there in the moment itself.
