Whatever is created, whatever is discovered is to make life more comfortable, beautiful, peaceful and happy. One of such creations is the ‘Relationship’. We invest our mental, spiritual and psychic energies in building relationships.
The first relationship has to be with ‘You’. You must have a very clear relationship with yourself, knowing why you feel the way you do, why you think in a particular way and so on. The first step is to be aware of your own self.
Second, why do we want a relationship? Is it for happiness, for security? If that is so, the best source of what we call happiness and security is the Divine. Divinity is present everywhere, also in those you consider close to you. And having a close relationship with your psyche can give you everything you need. In daily life, how do you find divinity in your spouse or companion, for instance? Be Sincere and faithful. The key is to give without expectation. These things are possible if your understanding is healthy, if your consciousness is full of light and brightness. But how are relationships established? Even hunger can create relationships: you enter into a relationship with food, don’t you? Grow with relationships, and at the sametime remember that all possibilities are inside, they are not coming from the outside. What you are looking for outside you is inside you. Your body is like a television set. It displays visuals all the time. So when you display negative things, it is in your hands to change the channel.
Relationships sour primarily due to ego. Use your ego. But do not allow your ego to use you. It is a tool, if you know how to use it; it will build you and give you many wonderful things. If the ego is using you, you will see ego everywhere. Only ego sees ego. Ego is without substance: a lack of knowledge, a lack of light. Hate is too much Love. You never hate someone you don’t know. We call it hate but hate is also a substance of love there. It is too much connection.
Hence, your relationships are in your own hands. Let them grow with Love.
Ref: "The Speaking Tree"
